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Family Court And Domestic Violence Victims

4/8/2021

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By S. Anna Edwards
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In Michigan it was discovered that a national domestic violence facility received Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) grant money. Forty Five percent of that Federal grant money went to judges, law enforcement, and prosecuting attorneys who sat on their board. this a conflict of interest and can lead to exparte communication with the judge regarding a case.
Women who leave their abusive marriage are told by their attorneys to not bring up domestic violence.
Not only are the women told to not bring up the issue, but judges are now getting to the point they do not want to give Personal Protection Orders (PPO) to keep the woman and children safe. This is done to keep from any statistics being studied on cases to not show that judges are giving abusive fathers custody. Domestic violence cases tend to turn into high conflict cases.
When the mother realizes that her and her babies are not going to be protect, it is already too late.
The mother is traumatized by abuse. She gets into the divorce system to get out of the relationship to stay safe and keep her children safe as well and she is abused. She is told by an attorney to not bring up the abuse. When something happens and she then files for protection, she is abused again by the system not helping her. The judge will not hold the abuser for contempt of court, violence or intimidation practice because they help to wear down the mother to make the sale of custody easier. When caseworkers, therapist, and guardian ad litems (GAL) do not help her and typically turn on her, she is abused once again.
The abuser is never sent for supervised visitations, but the mother is.
A course the facility workers are going to abuse her and try and control her some more, they are contracted with the court. Their judge is either sitting on the board or sitting on a team that is working to keep women and children safe, but really it is about the grant money.
Are judges, prosecuting attorneys, and law enforcement claiming their Federal grant funds on their taxes?
No one even knows that these elected officials are obtaining this money, let along if they are claiming these funds on their taxes. They could put the money in their pocket and no one would ever know!
There are judges who sign PPO orders and then a few years later give the abusive father custody.
How does a judge sign a PPO order and turn around and give the father custody? It has been found that after several violations nothing happened to the father or may be a $50 dollar fine took place. Once the abuser is on his best behavior and the PPO is dropped, he then will start alienating the children against the mother and create a high conflict case. He will not show up for visitations and cry to the court the mother will not let him see his child. The mother is fighting for her children and their safety with no one to back her up, no one to do their job, and no one following the “best interest of the child.”
Everyone sure is making the money, now aren’t they?
Laws are made for animals if the woman leaves an abuser, she can take the dog because the abuser will harm the animal. So much for taking her kids though, they are worth $$$$$$$ to the court contractors.
Colorado received $7.5 million Fatherhood Grant by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services’ Administration for Children and Families in 2021.
The grant will provide services across seven sites in Colorado and is designed to serve adult fathers ages 18 and older through fatherhood partnerships. The program will serve 1,820 eligible fathers over five years. The breaks down to $1,500,000 a year for five years. Where is the Motherhood partnerships? There are none!

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What was your experience with a Psych evaluation?

7/13/2020

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Often times survivors can see the toxic traits in their STBX better than anyone and they hope that psych evaluation would bring to the abusive traits so that the judge could make better informed decisions about custody. The book "Splitting" by Billy Eddie is a fantastic resource prior to requesting and divorcing a person with Narcissistic, abusive or other troubling traits.  
  • "I got a forensic psych eval that cost me $30k. All it said was he is “capable of making decisions in the best interest” of our son but “only time will tell”.
  • "Yes. It was recommended by a Court Appointed Advisor. He was required to pay for it."
  • "I intentionally scheduled my evaluation first so she heard my version of events first. I also provided additional documentation such as a copy of a police report and a few email exchanges. For each email exchange I included a short paragraph explaining why I thought the exchange was relevant to the pattern of concerning behavior I was attempting to establish. Ultimately, he was found to have unspecified personality disorder with histrionic and narcissistic traits - I was not assessed with any mental health issues. The evaluator testified at trial, but I also hired an expert witness to review the psych evals and testify as to how my nex's diagnosis would impact his parenting. This really helped the court to understand that his condition isn't really treatable. I was awarded full physical and legal custody and my nex has had no contact with our child for over 6 years because he didn't want to follow the custody order."
  • "Yes, but it didn’t really matter at the end of the day. He found a “psychiatrist” who wrote a one page letter stating that he was cured from his PTSD from the war and was otherwise a very sane and rational man. Highly recommended him as a father. That one bogus piece of paper was accepted by the courts and considered sufficient enough to give him 50/50 custody."
  • "Waste of $$$ they can and do “pass” these even though they are supposedly designed not to be. Spent $6k on one (me and ex) didn’t show a thing except “anger issues” in his part"
  • "Most evaluators have little to no experience with NPD or personality disorders."
  • "I didn’t know such thing was possible, but the judge ordered it after reading some texts in a OP case. He also required him to have six therapy sessions (the max he was allowed to order) per evaluation recommendation."
  • "The judge ordered my nex to take a psychosexual evaluation, but I had to cover all expenses. The Dr. that evaluated him found enough red flags that she called CPS, recommended a treatment system, diagnosed him with a sexual deviancy problem, & noted narcissistic traits, but that more testing was needed before making that a diagnosis. Unfortunately the narc convinced the judge to not take the report seriously & it had no bearing on our final judgment. Neither did the polygraph or a ton of other evidence. Narcs are master manipulators. I was told the evidence was so much & so damning it wasn’t really necessary for me to share my story. So I simply pointed back to the evidence. I regret that now. I’m not sure it would have made a difference, but now I’ll never know. Literally all the evidence was against him & in my favor, but he still got everything he wanted"
  • Waste of time and money.
  • "Keep in mind if the judge doesn’t give weight to forensic reports, (as well as the attorney for the child) it sadly will not matter what the report finds or recommends."
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