What Is A High Conflict Coach?
It only takes one person
to create a high-conflict situation
"Couragefindher was in my first graduating class of certified, high conflict divorce coaches. Couragefindher will be an amazing resource and advocate for those who find themselves in a high-conflict divorce or child-custody battle. It was an honor to have her in the program and I look forward to cheering her on in her advocacy work."
- Tina Swithin, CEO/Founder of the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program
Do You Have A High-Conflict Or An Abuser In Your Life?
According the High Conflict Institute:
"High conflict people have a pattern of high-conflict behavior that increases conflict rather than reducing or resolving it. They will never play by the rules and their ability to recreate reality to fit their needs makes them a ruthless and dangerous person to ever go to battle against."
"The good new it’s a predictable problem—and can be handled in most cases, if you understand it. Once you know some aspects of their pattern of behavior, you may be able to anticipate other problems that will arise and avoid them or prepare to respond to them".
According the High Conflict Institute:
"High conflict people have a pattern of high-conflict behavior that increases conflict rather than reducing or resolving it. They will never play by the rules and their ability to recreate reality to fit their needs makes them a ruthless and dangerous person to ever go to battle against."
"The good new it’s a predictable problem—and can be handled in most cases, if you understand it. Once you know some aspects of their pattern of behavior, you may be able to anticipate other problems that will arise and avoid them or prepare to respond to them".
Let's Be A Team!
The only way to overcome is with a big support team. This is an isolating journey and many times our friends, family and even lawyers are not well-versed in navigating high-conflict battles. In family court the low-conflict people may unfairly labeled as part of the problem or not believed. Learning how to understand the court process and how the legal system operates is key to success.
How Can We Help?
We can serve as a support, strategic partner, and confidant who will work with you to find tools and solutions, no matter what you are facing. We can help you learn how to:
The only way to overcome is with a big support team. This is an isolating journey and many times our friends, family and even lawyers are not well-versed in navigating high-conflict battles. In family court the low-conflict people may unfairly labeled as part of the problem or not believed. Learning how to understand the court process and how the legal system operates is key to success.
How Can We Help?
We can serve as a support, strategic partner, and confidant who will work with you to find tools and solutions, no matter what you are facing. We can help you learn how to:
- Make sense of the chaos
- Help your children cope and to weather the storm
- Strategize
- Communicate in a court-approved manner
- Co-parent with a HC person
- Navigate HC triggers
- Effectively document and get organized
- Prepared to meet with a child custody evaluator
- Safeguard against parental alienation allegations
- Lower lawyer fees by getting organized (Be the lawyer's dream client).
- Learn to advocate for your children's safety and rights
What is Post Separation Abuse?
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“Divorce coaching is a flexible, goal-oriented process designed to support, motivate, and guide people going through divorce to help them make the best possible decisions for their future, based on their particular interests, needs, and concerns. Divorce coaches have different professional backgrounds and are selected based on the specific needs of the clients.” -American Bar Association |
High-Conflict In Three Phases
PHASE 1: Educate
When you realize you are in a relationship with a person with narcissistic personality disorder, it is earth-shattering. We first educate you on their tiny playbook and learn to decode and predict their moves.
When you realize you are in a relationship with a person with narcissistic personality disorder, it is earth-shattering. We first educate you on their tiny playbook and learn to decode and predict their moves.
PHASE 2: Plan
Getting out of a toxic relationship is one of the hardest things you will ever do. It takes a team, a clear-thinking buddy and a plan. I will help you plan, document, and survive the coming storms.
Getting out of a toxic relationship is one of the hardest things you will ever do. It takes a team, a clear-thinking buddy and a plan. I will help you plan, document, and survive the coming storms.
PHSE 3: Freedom and Recovery
Once we are empowered with education and planning, it is time to be free. You become your own advocate and learn to stand up for your dreams. You will have energy to begin to recover and plan a new life without a toxic partner. Also how to stay of to toxic relationships.
Once we are empowered with education and planning, it is time to be free. You become your own advocate and learn to stand up for your dreams. You will have energy to begin to recover and plan a new life without a toxic partner. Also how to stay of to toxic relationships.
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Tina Swithin survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane” while acting as her own attorney in a custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down from 2009- 2014.
Tina feels that it is incredibly important to reflect back on her journey and to examine how she fell into the clutches of a narcissist in the first place. It was during a therapy session in 2008 (towards the end of her marriage) that she first heard the term, “Narcissistic Personality Disorder,” and it was in that moment that her true journey began…all of the toxicity and abuse from her seven year marriage began to make sense. Her path to empowerment through education was bumpy but her faith guided her the entire way.
While divorces are never easy, Tina quickly learned that a divorce involving an individual with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) takes the term, “high-conflict” to a level that few can comprehend. In an effort to articulate what was happening in her family court case, Tina took shelter from the storm by chronicling her journey in her (now) internationally recognized blog, “One Mom’s Battle.” Tina’s little village grew to include thousands of people who all shared the same story. There were different variations and nuances but the common denominator was Narcissistic Personality Disorder along with other Cluster B Personality Disorders (antisocial personality disorder and borderline personality disorder).
Tina’s battle came to an end after almost six years when she walked out of the Family Court System with the one thing that she had dedicated her life to securing: her daughters’ safety. Despite the fact that the odds were against her, Tina never gave up. She waded through the muddy waters of a courtroom that was filled with the lies, projection and manipulation. Tina prevailed when the courts revoked all visits and all contact between the children and their father based largely on emotional abuse — which is almost unheard of in family court.
Photo from Ivan Radic
